Anxious Attachment Patterns Quiz

After working with people who struggle with anxious attachment and relationship anxiety for over 5 years, I’ve discovered 5 Anxious Attachment Patterns that are prevalent in their relationships. These aren’t inherently bad, but are adaptations they’ve learned to stay safe and get their needs met. Take this 4 minute quiz to find out your strongest pattern and learn initial insights to move towards secure attachment.

My body-based approach to healing your attachment style

Hi, I’m Victoria Hockaday, I’m a therapist for people who struggle with depression, anxiety, insecure attachment, and unhealthy relationship patterns.

My approach focuses on healing attachment wounds through a body-based process, helping you explore the feelings that arise in relationships using guided meditation, inner child work and emotional awareness techniques.

My Story

For years I struggled with anxious attachment.

Whenever someone pulled away, I would experience fear, panic, constant worry and overthinking. I often found myself choosing emotionally unavailable partners who mirrored my childhood experiences of inconsistent caregiving.

I tried many approaches talk therapy, reading books, and trying to “think my way” out of my patterns, but nothing truly shifted.

This is because attachment wounds live largely in the subconscious and the nervous system, not just in our thoughts.

What Actually Helped

Things began to change when I started working directly with my emotions through guided meditation and body-based techniques.

By learning how to feel and process my emotions safely, my anxious attachment gradually reduced.

I was able to:

• Set healthier boundaries
• Self-soothe intense emotions
• Create a deeper sense of inner emotional safety
• Regulate my nervous system
• Notice red flags in relationships
• Trust my intuition

My Secure Attachment Imprinting Method

After helping people heal their attachment patterns for over 5 years, I developed My Secure Attachment Imprinting Method

This approach helps you:

Drastically reduce anxiety
Go from clingy to confident in relationships
Stop being the caretaker in relationships and improve your emotional well-being
Stop being the doormat and set stronger boundaries
Grow in self-worth and self-confidence
Create harmonious relationships that feel safe and supportive

Attachment style quiz

Take this 2-minute attachment style quiz to discover your attachment style and begin moving toward secure attachment through a body-based healing approach.

Testimonial

"I've had years of different therapy and nothing has ever got to the root of my issues like what you've introduced me to"

“I just wanted to thank you firstly, for all the incredible sessions. You’ve made a massive difference to my inner children. I’m understanding myself better and I’m checking in with them and some of them are pretty much healed now. So thank you, thank you. Like I’ve said before, I’ve had years of different therapy and nothing has ever got to the root of my issues like what you’ve introduced me to so thank you. I’m very, very grateful to have found you and for all the incredible help you gave me. And I’ve had almost 40 years of just not feeling good enough and my inner critic ruling and I’ve really learned to love my inner children and understand where they’re coming from and I’ve just got a very different relationship with myself now and I don’t feel petrified of people anymore”.

Testimonial

I was fortunate to walk this path with my therapist, Vicky - a presence so calm, grounded, and steady that she created the safety I needed to grow, untangle, and release.

Over the past year, I committed to one of the most transformative journeys of my life: healing my inner child. I was fortunate to walk this path with my therapist, Vicky -a presence so calm, grounded, and steady that she created the safety I needed to grow, untangle, and release. Through this journey, layers of fear began to dissolve. I confronted limiting beliefs I didn’t even know I carried. I let go of inner blockages that had shaped my reactions, my expectations, and the way I received the world. With each session, something softened… and something strengthened.
This work liberated me. I found myself living, working, and connecting from a clearer, freer place. My meaningful relationships became richer and more authentic. The questions that once weighed heavily on my heart finally had space to breathe – and the clarity that emerged was invaluable. Inner child work is not instant. It peels gently, a layer at a time, and each layer reveals a deeper truth. But the unfolding is worth it. I am deeply grateful for this experience. It was exceptional – a gift I didn’t know I needed and I would recommend it to anyone seeking deeper alignment, peace, and a fuller sense of self.