If you have a conflict-avoiding pattern then if something is bothering you in your relationship, you’ll try to ignore that something is bothering you, you’ll avoid bringing up that something is bothering you, or you keep it to yourself out of worry about what might happen if you mention it.
When someone brings up a conflict with you, perhaps you change the subject, leave the situation in order to avoid it, or you freeze up and struggle to communicate clearly.
Conflict-avoidant patterns are often learned early. If expressing yourself didn’t feel safe growing up, you may have adapted by staying quiet, agreeable, or emotionally withdrawn. Beneath this is a younger part of you that still needs safety, care, and validation, but instead of asking for it, you avoid tension altogether. This can lead to anxiety, suppression, and feeling unseen in your relationships, because your needs are never fully expressed or received.
The manifestations of attachment trauma are primarily subconscious, so talk therapy or psycho-education are insufficient in transforming the conflict-avoiding pattern.
True transformation comes from healing the underlying pain and wounds beneath the pattern, so you can release hurt and emotional energy from your mind and nervous system and transform this pattern into a healthier pattern.
In my container Embodied Secure Attachment, we’ll work experientially together through to transform this Conflict-Avoiding Pattern and integrate the quality of Conflict Resolution.
They’ll be transmissions designed to integrate this quality psychologically, emotionally, physically and spiritually, so they can be fully integrated into your mind, body and spiri
Not only will you learn to transform the caretaking pattern, but you’ll learn how to transform 8 other Anxious Attachment Patterns that contribute to anxious and insecure relationships.
You’ll be able to see the habitual patterns of the old paradigm of functioning and begin to grow and shift into your higher heart and embodied self.
They’ll be consciousness keys to seed a new paradigm of a relationship that can be healed, learned and integrated.
As you integrate the healing and absorb the teachings into your consciousness, an inner adventure will unfold and you’ll cultivate the expansion of presence, calmness, trust and surrender, and you’ll come back to a secure connection from the inside.
Our intention is that this program will support you through a period of healing & growth, so you can connect to yourself, create secure internal attachment and create deep and nourishing relationships.
If you’ve been seeking the keys to deeper intimacy with yourself and others, this is it.
Break free from unhealthy relationship patterns and cultivate deeper intimacy with yourself and others through radical self love.
After helping people heal their attachment patterns for over 5 years, I developed a method called Secure Attachment Imprinting.
This approach helps you:
• Befriend anxiety and attachment patterns
• Release stored emotional wounds
• Build secure attachment from within
• Integrate Embodied Secure Patterns into your mind, body, and nervous system
I’m Victoria Hockaday therapist for driven women who are successful at work but struggle in relationships and often ruminate and feel anxious about their partners.
They recognise that they have unconscious patterns they need to break and want to heal, cultivate internal secure attachment and consciously create relationships that are more fulfilling and supportive.
When I was embarking on my healing journey, I wanted to address my anxiousness, unworthiness, and I went on a spiritual quest to heal and build a secure relationship with myself.
If this resonates and you’re ready to begin healing your anxious attachment patterns, book a Zoom consultation to discuss my 1:1 Embodied Secure Attachment Container.
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