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Internal Family Systems Therapy UK
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If you’re here, there’s probably a part of you that’s tired.
Tired of holding it all together.
Tired of overthinking.
Tired of people-pleasing.
Tired of feeling anxious.
You might have been living in survival mode, being in constant fight or flight or looking for love in the wrong places, or simply trying to get through each day without falling apart and feeling hopeless things won’t change.
When you feel truly heard and listened to that’s when things start to shift. Having someone who understands; normalises it and doesn’t judge can give you the compassion and validation you need to co-regulate and feel more calm in your mind and nervous system.
Here, you’ll find a safe cocoon, a space where you are truly heard, your experiences matter, and your voice has room to be fully expressed. It’s in that kind of safety that real healing can begin, and you can start to connect to your feelings and emotions with curiosity and compassion.
Through guided meditation and somatic techniques we can get to know the feelings that are coming up for you and understand what their carrying.
For example, anxiety may be protecting you from fear of instability, abandonment or shame. We can get to know your anxiety using focusing and befriending techniques to help you build a relationship with your anxiety.
When your anxiety is understood and feels your compassion that’s when anxiety starts to soften.
Instead of trying to fight your anxiety, judge, analyse or try and “be positive” we can befriend your anxiety and get to know what role it has in protecting you from further pain.
We might ask your anxiety intuitive questions, such as:
Where do you notice it in your body?
What visual image do you see
How do you feel toward it?
How old is it?
When did it get this role?
What does it fear would happen if it didn’t have this role?
Let it know you’re open and curious to get to know it.
This approach helps you to connect to your body and enter meditative states of mind, so that you feel calmer in your body. When feelings feel heard and understood, they relax their defences and soften.
Frustrated by traditional talk therapy?
Perhaps you’ve tried other talk therapies and while they were helpful in some ways, they didn’t lead to lasting change.
You recognise you want to work with your body to create more space for joy, calm, vitality, and self-trust.
That’s where I come in. I offer warm, relational, trauma-informed IFS therapy in Newcastle and online for clients across the UK, US, EU, and UAE.
Which means we don’t just “talk about” your problems. We gently get to know the parts of you carrying them and the fears and unmet needs.
Therapy with me won’t feel like sitting across from a blank slate therapist in a doctor’s office. I’m not distant or hiding behind a notebook. I’m present, engaged, and human with you.
My Approach
My approach is relational, body-based, and grounded in Internal Family Systems (IFS).
I’m trained in person-centred therapy and Internal Family Systems. More importantly, I work in a way that feels collaborative and empowering. Instead of therapy feeling hierarchical, I help you to let go of being a doormat and become the leader of your life and your parts.
We will pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, behaviours, and body sensations without judgement. Together, we bring present-moment awareness to the coping mechanisms and relational patterns that may have once kept you safe as a little one but are now getting in the way of living your life fully.
IFS helps us explore your inner world. The anxious part, the self-critical part, the people-pleasing part, the part that stayed, the part that wants to fix others, the part that chases emotionally unavailable people and the part that is drained. We build understanding instead of shame.
And because trauma lives in the body, our work is also somatic and experiential, which means that in sessions we will use visualisations, guided meditations, inner journeys to get to know parts including:
- Body scan meditation
- Golden thread meditation
We will also draw on IFS exercises to help you build compassion with your parts, such as
- Focusing
- Befriending
- Unblending
I also offer exercises for you to do in-between sessions, so you won’t leave sessions feeling untethered. You’ll leave with something to hold onto. Including:
- Parts mapping
- Grounding exercises
- Reflective journaling prompts
FEMINIST AND SAFETY FOCUSED
I’m a proud feminist. That means I will never judge you for staying in an unsafe relationship. Power dynamics are complex and emotionally unsupported relationships can feel familiar.
I won’t tell you to ask an abusive partner to “just go to therapy.”
Your safety comes first.
Your wellbeing comes first.
Our focus is you, not fixing someone who harms you.
In sessions, we may use frameworks to help you understand and navigate unhealthy dynamics, including:
The Power and Control Wheel
Red flags in relationships
Insights from Lucy Bancroft Why Does He Do That?
These tools help you recognise harmful relational patterns, understand dynamics of control and abuse, and make empowered choices that protect your safety, autonomy, and emotional energy.
Neurodivergent-Affirming
I work in a neurodivergent-affirming way. That means no pathologising, no trying to make you “less sensitive,” and no shaming the coping strategies that once helped you survive.
Your ways of thinking, feeling, communicating, and responding are not flaws are adaptations.
In our work together, we focus on your nervous system. Rather than pushing against it, we learn to understand it.
For many autistic and ADHD adults, especially those with trauma histories, daily life can be very stressful. Continuous misattunement, social misunderstandings, masking, and anxiety can leave your nervous system in a near-constant state of fight-or-flight. Sensory input like noise, light, or busy environments can heighten stress further.
Therapy becomes a space where your nervous system doesn’t have to defend, mask, or brace.
Together, we:
Understand how your nervous system shapes your responses
Explore how autism or ADHD shows up for you
Make sense of patterns like hyper-vigilance, shutdown, people-pleasing, or overwhelm as protective adaptations
Develop self-compassion and validation for the ways you’ve coped
Build practical strategies for sensory sensitivities, executive functioning challenges, and emotional regulation — without self-criticism
Work gently with trauma patterns so your system can experience more safety and choice
Our work is about helping you feel safer in your body, clearer in your relationships, and more empowered in daily life, so you can live in a way that feels authentic and sustainable for you.
Boundaries & Protecting Your Emotional Energy
I support my clients in learning to set and maintain healthy boundaries in their own lives, protecting their emotional energy and creating safe, sustainable relationships.
We explore and strengthen boundaries using exercises such as:
- Tolerating vs. Acceptable Bucket
- Relationship / Boundary Mapping
- Emotional Energy Check
- Body-Based Boundary Awareness
- Scripts & Role-Play
Moments of laughter
Not every session needs to be deep, intense, or heavy. In fact, some of the most powerful healing happens in the lighter moments and the therapeutic relationship. When we laugh, share a small victory, or simply relax into the space together.
Therapy doesn’t have to feel like a constant deep dive. Sometimes, the healing comes from feeling safe enough to be yourself, to smile, to notice joy, and to have human connection in a relaxed environment.
The combination of relational warmth, structured tools, and yes a little laughter, is often what helps my clients truly feel relax, feel understood and supported.
Who I work with
I support adults navigating:
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Panic disorder
- Trauma & childhood neglect
- Emotional abuse
- Narcissism abuse
- Autism, ADHD, PTSD & Complex PTSD
- Emotional dysregulation
- People-pleasing & self-doubt
- Unhealthy relationship patterns
- Emotionally unavailable partners that leave you feeling anxious and drained
If you’ve learned to shrink yourself to stay safe, we’ll work gently toward helping you take up space.
My Location
I provide weekly online psychotherapy and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy for clients across the UK, including Newcastle, Bristol, and London.
Online sessions allow us to work together no matter where you are, giving you access to consistent, relational, trauma-informed support from the comfort of your own space.
Whether you’re local or connecting from afar, the work we do together is the same – safe, supportive, and tailored to your needs.
Consistency & Commitment
Therapy works best with consistency. Weekly sessions create a safe rhythm where trust and deeper work can unfold.
To maintain the therapeutic frame and ensure continuity:
- Sessions are held weekly at the same time
- Cancellations with less than 48 hours’ notice are charged – I will try find another time of the week with notice.
- Missed sessions are charged
These boundaries create emotional safety and support sustainable therapy.
READY to begin your therapy journey?
Body-based THERAPY that will leave you feeling calmer
Imagine your shoulders dropping for the first time in years.
Imagine your nervous system not constantly scanning for danger.
Imagine feeling steady in yourself, even when life feels uncertain.
Body-based therapy isn’t just about understanding your patterns. It’s about changing how they live in your body.
When we work somatically, we help your nervous system move out of survival mode and into safety. Over time, this can mean:
Feeling more confident and secure in your relationships
Responding rather than reacting
Being more resilient in the face of stress
Feeling clearer about your needs and able to voice them
Instead of being hijacked by old triggers, you begin to notice them sooner. You soften them. You work with them.
You may find yourself:
Breaking free from people-pleasing patterns
Trusting your instincts
Setting boundaries without panic
Feeling calmer in your body
Experiencing more joy, vitality, and self-acceptance
This isn’t about “fixing” you. It’s about helping your nervous system feel safe enough for you to live more intentionally, rather than reactively.
Together, we build regulation, resilience, and a deep, compassionate connection to yourself.
about
At the age of 34, I have been delivering IFS therapy for the last 5 years helping people with childhood trauma and neurodivergence process childhood trauma and neglect through IFS therapy. After going through my own personal experience of IFS and feeling lighter in my mind, body and nervous system I became fully trained in IFS therapy and have worked with clients in-person and online for the UK, US and UAE.
qualifications
Counselling Studies, Stroud & South Gloucestershire College
Clinical Hypnotherapy
Internal Family Systems Therapy, Life Architect
Psychology MSc, University of Manchester
Psychology BSc (Hons), University of Manchester
Other trainings
Somatic Parts Work, Fran Booth, The Embody Lab
Somatic Attachment Therapy, The Embody Lab
Trauma and The Body, Carolyn Spring
Treating Complex Trauma With Internal Family Systems, Frank Anderson MD
Treating Adult Clients of Emotionally Immature Parents, Lindsay Gibson PsyD
Trauma, Neglect and Building Resilience, Tavistock, Dr Graham Music
An Introduction to Creating Conscious Love, Shealeana Aiyana
Narcissistic Abuse for Therapists: Empower Clients to Break Free and Recover from Gaslighting, Emotional Manipulation and Coercion, Amy Marlow
WHAT IFS THERAPY CAN DO FOR YOU
Ease depression and anxiety, reduce emotional distress, break unhealthy relationship patterns, improve self confidence, feel calmer and lighter in your body, improve emotional regulation, self care, help you set boundaries and improve relationships.
PRESENTATIONS I work with
Depression, anxiety, trauma, childhood emotional neglect and unhealthy relationship patterns.
MY APPROACH
Relational, compassionate and supportive. Integrating IFS interventions that support you in accepting your multi-dimensional nature and becoming grounded in your true adult Self, so you can be more Self-led in your adult life.
